He Was Never Dull

Hey, my dearest reader,

In this blog, I want to share my personal experience and opinion on how friendship works in real life, or maybe in an introvert’s life.

Recently, I saw a reel on Instagram about an introverted person. In that reel, the person claims that most people are attracted to the person who is quiet in the room, and that everyone somehow likes them. But in reality, that’s not true.

Most people like the person who is active and extroverted. Sometimes, even your own family doesn’t like you for being an introvert. They often compare you with someone who is the opposite of you—an extrovert.

If you still want to know the life of an introvert, please continue reading.

I have a friend called Adithya, who is an introvert, and I have been friends with him for almost 15 years. We are best friends. Once, he invited me to his family gathering. I had a great time with his family and his cousins. After eating dinner, he was very quiet. I noticed it and asked him about it. He said he was having a severe headache. Even though he wasn’t well, he was doing his best to spend time with me and his cousins. He wasn’t entirely in the mood, but he stayed.

Later, his parents and uncle were in the same room as us, watching us laugh and play UNO. Adithya’s uncle noticed him and asked, “Why are you so dull, beta?” He was about to answer, but his mother interrupted and said, “He is always like that.”

No, he is not.

He was having a headache, and his own mother didn’t even know it. I looked at him, and the expression on his face is something I will never forget. It felt like he couldn’t take it anymore—being labeled like that, as if this is how he always is.

He is not always like this. He is extroverted with people he is comfortable with.

He tells me everything. He believes he will forever live in a never-ending agony—thinking that no one will ever love him, that he can never be the chosen one, and that no one will accept him the way he is. It breaks my heart every time I hear those words from him.

Every time, I tell him, “Don’t worry, yaar. Someone will definitely love you—it just takes some time.”

Till this day, he has never been in love. I mean, he has had many crushes, but none of them ever turned into something real. And the worst part is that every time he lets his guard down, he somehow always ends up building his walls back up again.

It’s not easy to be an introvert. They try to be different every day, with the hope that they might feel seen at least once in their life. One day they want to be like an extrovert, another day they want to be understood, and another day they just want to feel seen—but none of it really works.

They don’t want to be loud — they just want to be seen.

This is dedicated to all the introverst who are especially labelled as dull.